Warning….. Picture of female breast…..
There you go. That’s my breast. Well. Half of one of my breasts. It’s to make up for the bit of breast I have missing as a result of breast cancer. Reminds me of dinner last night. Chicken. Are you offended? Am I objectified? The answers to the first question should be no. The answer to the second is definitely not.
The war cry of women in 2018 appears to be #metoo or #timesup & I say war cry as some women appear to be waging a war on men, sex and god forbid, any interaction or touching. I should make it clear from the outset that I do not condone sexual harassment, sexual misconduct or sexual attacks – but the fact I have to make it clear shows how blurred and to a certain extent, how trivialised the events of recent months have become.
It all kicked off with Harvey Weinstein a few months ago now – I blogged at the time and it should be noted that whilst I don’t disbelieve the accusers, at this point, charges have yet to be brought. This opened up the floodgates for women, and in some cases men, to come forward with details of sexual harassment at varying levels. Whilst I absolutely understand that lesser known actresses and staff might be concerned about impacting their career and they made an educated choice to not go public, the likes of Angelina Jolie, Gwyneth Paltrow and Kate Winslet, to name but a few, whilst eloquent on political issues, ambassadors to the UN and other causes, remained quiet, throughout their careers, choosing to not speak out about the issues in the industry until the bandwagon appeared for them to jump on. Why? These 3 women and others like them, are powerful, successful women in Hollywood. And yet they chose to not speak out and just continue to work (in the alleged case of Harvey Weinstein) with a man, known for unwanted advances. Why? Women known for being outspoken yet afraid to make a difference.
More women are coming forward at being offended or harassed. Men and women flirt. In bars, at work, everywhere, they flirt. Sometimes a knee is touched. Someone might make a pass. This doesn’t constitute sexual harassment. If the touching is, for example, someone grabbing a woman’s breast or reaching into a man’s crotch and the advance is repeated and undesired, then quite obviously we are moving into harassment and assault territory. However, I’d like to think that most people can differentiate between a clumsy flirtatious pass and repeated, unwanted attention. Otherwise as a society, the future of dating is screwed. I don’t want to think that women are accusing in order to gain attention but certainly for some of the accusations, I’m not sure how we can deal with issues that are quite literally based in a different time with a different set of ideals and with no evidence apart from a “he says, she’s says” – again, I am NOT referring to assault or harassment.
Everyone seems to becoming increasingly a moral judge and those who dare to be different are ostracised. Declarations of women being “objectified” because they parade in skimpy outfits at events such as darts or racing. It’s a choice, possibly some women have little other career choices but who the hell are we to judge if they want to flaunt their god given gifts?? I’d love to have a figure where I was paid for people to look at me and be objectified because guess what? I have a brain as well. Is a woman in a sequined bikini better off working in the bikini and paying for her university education or supporting her household or is it better that she doesn’t work, because god forbid, someone might find her easy on the eye.
As I write this post, I’ve just seen a report that women attending to the BAFTAs this year have been asked, in kinship with the Golden Globes, to wear black. Yup. That’s going to help everyone ladies. Do as you are told. Don’t dare be different. Opposing and unique opinions are not welcome. You either agree or you stay quiet. Who’s the oppressor now?